Updated: Aug 19, 2020
As I have been getting older I find myself self- reflecting more frequently, forming a personal assessment about myself; growing a better understanding of who I am, my purpose, questioning my choices and why I act the way I do. Our experiences makes us who we are, which is why self- reflection is important. It helps us take a close look at our thoughts, emotions, experiences and responses to those experiences. During this process you may realize some healing, forgiveness of yourself and/ or others may need to happen. You may start remembering your dreams and aspirations prior to circumstances that made you forget and be inspired to start working on them again; or you may have realized you handled a situation at work or with a friend badly and figure out how you can make it right. Whatever you learn about yourself or "ah ha" moment that occurs during your self- reflection, remember not to be judgemental. The reason for self reflection is to assist in positive change not to self- criticize. If you feel like you may need assistance in this process please see the list of therapist on the coping resource page if you don't already have one. If you don't live in the DC, Maryland or Virginia area their are a number of websites like goodtherapy.org that can find therapist in your area. Iyanla Vanzant said it perfectly "The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination. Until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life". Self-reflection ideas to get you started 1. Think about what is causing you to self-reflect- was their a trigger? Did something happen? Is it about life in general? 2. Write out your thoughts 3. Focus on the cause of your self- reflection and think about the experience. How did you feel about it? How did you react and why? 4. Think about how the experience may have changed you- Try to dissect your behavior, thoughts and emotions towards yourself and others after the experience happend. Am I frequently angry? Am I frequently sad? Do I second guess myself? Did I lose my self-esteem? Am I anxious? Do I think about the experience often? Do I criticize others? 5. Try to understand all perspectives - Did you overreact? Were you irrational? Did you not react at all and you feel you should have? 6. Think about whether you have grown through this experience or have been stagnant. Can you forgive? Can you let go of the anger? Can you move forward? What could you have done differently? 7. Think about next steps- Can you make steps to improve your thoughts, behaviors and emotions towards yourself and/or others? If not are you willing to get help?
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